When Will Bullies Get The Message? – by Anti-Bullying Coach, Self Esteem for Young People Coach, Award Winning Poet and YouAreYOU Holistic Coaching and Training Services Founder Patricia Foster

Photo: Patricia Foster
Photo: Patricia Foster
As individuals, we are ALL created uniquely beautiful. Some of us have gentle dispositions and are therefore misunderstood. Some of us are extremely sensitively wired and are therefore misunderstood. Some of us will NEVER fit into the mould of acceptable looks, or acceptable past times. It’s about having patience with and being accepting of others, instead of demonising them…because they are not like you!

“Speaking out against harsh, critical words may be a huge challenge.”

Some of us have not developed the communication tools to express our thoughts or feelings, so may have difficulty in responding to harsh words or criticism, or are unable to articulate the inner pain connected to these harsh words. Speaking out against harsh, critical words may be a huge challenge.

Some of us may feel unsupported, because we are unable to find the right person to express our innermost thoughts and feelings to, without the fear of our expressed feelings being thrown back in our faces.

There is a saying “hurt people hurt people”. Research has shown that those who are unhappy within, or are in pain themselves, may sometimes lash out or bully others, therefore hurting their intended target too.

I performed poetry at a recent ‘Loose Muse’ women’s writing event and a courageous young lady shared her own, deeply personal experiences of being bullied and subsequently wanting to take her own life. She mentioned also that in the area of south London where she resides, suicides among teenagers, in particular GCSE and A Level students were at a ridiculously high number. This was not just due to the pressures of life, but also about how some are made to feel by harsh comments and treatments by others.

I recently read a Facebook post, which outlined the final Tweet posted by a young man, tormented over the years about his sexuality. He was commonly referred to as “a loser, freak and fag” and used this to describe himself in his last Twitter message. He felt he had done the world an injustice and therefore took his own life.

Without the right support and understanding from others, when will people cease to remove their inner pain, torment and feelings of being misunderstood by taking their own lives?

Some of us will never be accepted, because we are moulded and act differently.

How can those of us who are emotionally stronger step in to help prevent bullying and help support and encourage those who are being bullied or misunderstood?

In my coaching, workshops, talks, as well as through my writing, I have focussed on this, as I have also been bullied and victimised by others. I therefore choose to use my art and holistic and well-being tools to help stand up to this. Writing and coaching can be useful ways to express pain, as well as feel accepted and valued within.

© Patricia Foster,
Award Winning Poet, Sable Litmag Poet-in-Residence 2014-2015, Qualified Life Coach (Dip NMC), Motivational Speaker and YouAreYOU founder.

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‘Sensitivity and the Artist: The Link Between Sensitive Personalities and Creativity’. By You Are YOU Founder, Life Coach and Award-Winning Writer Patricia Foster McKenley

‘Sensitivity and the Artist: The Link Between Sensitive Personalities and Creativity’.

By YouAreYOU Founder, Life Coach and Award-Winning Writer Patricia Foste McKenley 

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Being a sensitive adult can be perceived as either a curse or blessing. Many sensitive adults, who may deem this a curse, can probably list a range of unwanted or difficult circumstances such as:

• Being highly affected by harsh and nasty comments

• Taking on board and feeling deeply saddened by others’ misfortune

• Being affected by criticism and judgment from others

• Always wanting to avoid confrontation or uncomfortable conversations

• Bearing childhood traumas that trigger off reactions to relatively similar adult situations

• Excruciating shyness

• Being labelled too shy, too sensitive or a walkover by others

• Becoming stressed easily

• Experiencing low self-esteem

• High bouts of depression

 

However, many sensitive adults may regard their high sensitivity a blessing and look at the advantages such as:

• Being a good listener

• Possessing empathy

• Being excellent authors and poets

• Having the ability to express themselves as artists

• Being highly intuitive and spiritual

• Having high levels of patience

 

I have witnessed highly sensitive individuals who champion the causes of other people, encouraging them to utilise their gifts. However, when it comes to expressing their own gifts, or operating from their higher selves or to their highest potential, they almost enter the realms of martyrdom, where it is virtually difficult for them to speak up or express their true selves. 

Research has shown that many highly sensitive adults end up working as counsellors, teachers, artists, poets, writers, authors, social workers, healers, natural health practitioners and within other caring professions. 

“one in every five people is born with a heightened sensitivity” 

 

According to Elaine N. Aron Ph.D., the author of ‘The Highly Sensitive Person: How to Thrive When the World Overwhelms You’, the world can be an extremely, overwhelming and unassuming place to sensitive people in general and certain situations and environments are too overly stimulating. She also acknowledges that “one in every five people is born with a heightened sensitivity” and gifted with “intelligence and imagination”. 

I speak as a sensitive adult myself, who has experienced or displayed many of the above traits. Reading Elaine’s book about The Highly Sensitive Person (HSPs) was a welcome breath of fresh air; it made me realise there was nothing wrong with me and indeed others I know who bear similar traits. Due to the, at times, overwhelming and difficult circumstances in my life, I have had to identify the personality traits that I have and go through a stage of healing and being kind to myself. This ‘self identification’ and healing process allowed me to develop the skills and empathy to understand, listen and heal others (especially those who are sensitive) through coaching, teaching, training, art, film making, poetry and Reiki. 

Over the years, I focused on ways to harness my sensitive nature and also balance this with being grounded and looking after my physical and emotional health. 

I discovered that my emotional health was impacted by consuming certain foods that created imbalance (such as meat and alcohol). Through following a vegan and raw vegan diet and being teetotal, this has prevented me from becoming too overwhelmed and over stimulated by the world. Being highly sensitive is a personality trait I feel blessed to have and with this, I endeavour to make this world a better place to exist in. However, this is not to say that non-sensitive personalities are insensitive, impatient or possess little or no creative skills. This is to highlight that sensitive people are ‘wired’ uniquely and therefore respond to external stimuli in a unique way. 

© Patricia Foster, YouAreYOU 2015

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How Does YouAreYOU Support Sensitive People?

YouAreYOU works confidentially with sensitive children, sensitive adults, EBD young people, adults and young people on the autistic spectrum, artists, creative practitioners, writers, alternative health practitioners and those in caring professions. With over twenty years of successful results and outstanding achievements from clients, YouAreYOU has an in depth understanding and knowledge of sensitive individuals and their gifts, which in many cases are yet to be unleashed and are often unharnessed. We at YouAreYOU  therefore serve to provide an unprecedented and unique supportive service for unique individuals, through coaching, training, art, writing, digital media activities, healthy eating tips, healing and workshops.

If you are an individual, group or are hosting an event, contact Patricia of YouAreYOU for further info, help and support at: info@youareyou.co or +44(0)7956 476 547

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About the author

 

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Patricia Foster is a Qualified Life Coach, an Award-Winning Writer, Internationally Published Poet, Performer, Certified Reiki Healer, Wellbeing Advisor, Vegan and lover of Raw Food. 

She is also CRB checked, a Visual and Multimedia Artist (BA Hons), Broadcaster, as well as a Certified Tutor/Trainer & Facilitator, Dynamic Educator and Creative Consultant with over twenty years of outstanding results and learning outcomes. 

As a writer, she has worked for the BBC and has toured the UK, Europe and the USA. 

 

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Event: Women’s Nutrition Made Easy, with Patricia Foster of ‘You Are You’ Holistic Coaching & Training Services and Kitchen Buddy founder Theresa Webb. 24/3/15 Torridon Library, Catford 1RQ. Coach, Vegan, Mentor, Raw Food, Speaker, Workshop.

Women’s Nutrition Made Easy: With Kitchen Buddy founder Theresa Webb and YouAreYOU founder Patricia Foster Tuesday 24th March 2015 (7:00-9:00pm), Torridon Library, Catford London FREE! 

Patricia Foster, qualified life coach and founder of You Are YOU holistic coaching and training services, will be providing practical, every day healthy eating and Wellbeing tips for women 25 years and over.

Tickets may already be booked up. Contact Torridon Library for  further details.


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Special Offer: ‘Pay-What-You-Can Wednesdays’ For New Clients. From YouAreYOU Holistic Coaching, Empowerment & Training Services. Founder Patricia Foster, Life Coach, Poet, Educator, Motivational Speaker.

Special offer for NEW CLIENTS: ‘Pay-What-You-Can Wednesdays’ For Coaching, Mentoring, Personal IT Training and School Workshops. From YouAreYOU Holistic Coaching, Empowerment & Training Services. YouAreYOU.co

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Great news from YouAreYOU founder Patricia Foster!

I have a lot to celebrate in my life at the moment. Because I am feeling in such a fantastic mood, I would love to tell you about our Special, Limited, Offer at YouAreYOU. If you are based in the UK, I am offering New Clients a Pay-What-You-Can service on Wednesdays only. Outside of the UK, this offer is available for coaching sessions, by Skype or telephone.

Now, why would I want to do this? 

I pray every day and received guidance to make this decision. I believe that my services add great value for money. 

For over twenty years, I have successfully transformed the lives of hundreds of clients, including generations of young people, who have gone on to excel in their chosen fields and become successful leaders. 

I posses a calm, patient, intuitive coaching and teaching style, which has cultivated interactive and engaging ways for young people and women to be creative, to self express, build confidence and raise self esteem. 

My dynamic, empathic and supportive approach to training, coaching, educating and improving lives, has empowered learners of all ages and seekers of an enhanced way of living life.

I also am aware that many of us, particularly if you are transitioning from one phase of your life to another, will not have the cash flow they desire. With this in mind, I wanted to provide the community and professional level expertise that I have and make it accessible to everyone.
For our coaching, we will offer a FREE, complimentary session, via Skype or telephone, to assess your needs, before you book your ‘Pay-What-You-Can Wednesdays’ sessions. How does this sound?
ABOUT OUR SERVICES
YouAreYOU provides coaching, mentoring, workshops and training. 

We focus on females: Women, Young Women, Girls, also NEETs, Creative Practitioners, Young entrepreneurs and EBD (Emotional Behavioural Disorders) Students, who are experiencing transitional life experiences, while striving to meet their dreams and goals. 

Our work also centres on Sensitive Children and Sensitive Adults, who have a much gentler approach to life and may be overwhelmed by their transitional life experiences. 
Our work is heart centred. 

We work in the following ways:
• One-to-one, 

• In person 

• Skype

• Telephone

• With groups

 

We also facilitate Personal Development Workshops at Seminars and Conferences, as well as Young People’s Projects and Schools. 

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Showing Gratitude! From Patricia Foster, founder of YouAreYOU Coaching and Training Services. Upcoming events – Torridon Library, Together We Rise

Greetings Everyone. 


Feeling very blessed this morning, 


As we have just experienced the close of February, I am incredibly grateful that the month of my birth has given YouAreYOU the opportunity to enrich the lives of others through coaching, mentoring, talks/speaking, workshops and poetry!


Other opportunities to arise in March include:

Women’s Nutrition Made Easy:
With Kitchen Buddy founder Theresa Webb and YouAreYOU founder Patricia Foster

Tuesday 24th March 2015 (7:00-9:00pm),
Torridon Library,
Catford London
FREE!

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Very excited to share that YouAreYOU founder Patricia Foster to be honoured with award for Poetry services to Art & Culture at TOGETHER WE RISE Women’s Event.

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Saturday 28th March 2915,
3pm – 8pm

The Edutainment Palace,
1-5 Hinton Rd, Brixton, London SE24 0HJ,
Brixton, LONDON UK

Tickets and further information:
http://risetogether.eventbrite.co.uk

YouAreYOU founder Patricia Foster will be on the FAMILY MATTERS storytelling tour, throughout April and May, with the poetry collective Six Sisters.

“‘Family Matters’ is a unique showcase of true tales written and performed by four of London’s best-loved poet/writers: Agnes Meadows, Patricia Foster, Janett Plummer and Linda Shanovitch.”

Quote on Transition and Change from YouAreYOU Founder Patricia Foster – Transitional Coach, Poet, Writer, Speaker, Trainer, Expert.

When we are transitioning towards our goals, our external world may present a series of challenging circumstances for us to conquer.

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Helping you to transition towards your ultimate goals and desires in life.

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About YouAreYOU founder, Patricia Foster

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YouAreYOU Founder Patricia Foster, Talks at Aspire2BGreat Coffee Morning, Friday 27th February 2015, Battersea

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Patricia Foster, founder of YouAreYOU Holistic Coaching & Training Services youareyoublog.wordpress.com , will be a motivational speaker and holistic life coach on the ‘Aspire 2B Great’ Young Mother’s Life Skills project, taking place in April 2015.

Come down to the free coffee morning, Friday 27th February, 12-2pm, to hear all about the motivational talk and module she will be delivering and facilitating on this wonderful project. There will be an array of speakers and facilitators at the coffee morning, including Round the World Yachtswoman Tracey Edwards MBE.

Spaces are limited. To secure your place, please RSVP to Dannike_W@hotmail.com

For more information:

http://www.wandsworth.gov.uk/events/event/2304/young_mothers_life_skills_event

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World Self Love Day and My Birthday: 13th February 2015 – By Patricia Foster, YouAreYOU Founder and Holistic Coach

Are YOU searching for love this Valentine’s weekend?
If the answer is YES and You Are on the lookout, the best place to start is within yourself.

Learning to love yourself,
It is the greatest love of all.

~ George Benson and Whitney Houston

I recently discovered there is an official World Self Love Day. On checking the date closer, I realised it falls on the same day as my Birthday! How apt!

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So today, as well as celebrating My Birthday with family and friends, I will cultivate love for myself. This is the greatest form of love we can have. Without this, we cannot receive the love we desire!

Happy World Self Love Day!

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