Photo: Patricia Foster McKenleyAs individuals, we are ALL created uniquely beautiful. Some of us have gentle dispositions and are therefore misunderstood. Some of us are extremely sensitively wired and are therefore misunderstood. Some of us will NEVER fit into the mould of acceptable looks, or acceptable past times. It’s about having patience with and being accepting of others, instead of demonising them…because they are not like you!
“Speaking out against harsh, critical words may be a huge challenge.”
Some of us may not regularly express our thoughts or feelings, so may have difficulty in responding to harsh words or criticism, or are unable to articulate the inner pain connected to these harsh words. Speaking out against harsh, critical words may therefore be a huge challenge.
Some of us may feel unsupported, because we are unable to find the right person to express our innermost thoughts and feelings to, without the fear of our expressed feelings being thrown back in our faces.
There is a saying “hurt people hurt people”. Research has shown that those who are unhappy within, or are in pain themselves, may sometimes lash out or bully others, therefore hurting their intended target too. People with these tendencies may also be seen as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD).
I recently read a Facebook post, which outlined the final Tweet posted by a young man, tormented over the years about his sexuality. He was commonly referred to as “a loser, freak and fag” and used this to describe himself in his last Twitter message. He felt he had done the world an injustice and therefore took his own life.
Without the right support and understanding from others, when will people cease to remove their inner pain, torment and feelings of being misunderstood by taking their own lives?
Some of us will never be accepted, because we are moulded and act differently.
How can those of us who are emotionally stronger step in to help prevent bullying and help support and encourage those who are being bullied or misunderstood?
In my coaching, workshops, talks, as well as through my writing, I have focussed on this, as I have also been narcissistically abused, bullied and victimised by others. I therefore choose to use my art and holistic healing and well-being tools to help stand up to this. Writing and coaching can be useful ways to express pain, as well as feel accepted and valued within.
© Patricia Foster McKenley,
Award Winning Poet, Sable Litmag Poet-in-Residence 2014-2015, Qualified Life Coach (Dip NMC), Certified Healer, Certified Chair Massage Practitioner, Motivational Speaker and YouAreYOU.co founder.
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